Decisions of Destiny

Lots going on this week, so i'm a little late on this weeks post have some great content so here we go!:

Have you ever thought about your attitude when it comes to whether you FAIL or SUCCEED in something?
what is a failure what is a success?
Nobody is perfect so at one point or another you are going to make mistakes, or you are going to mess up, or whatever, does that mean you fail?
Its all about how you define failure.

If you adopt the attitude of always learning – if you approach situations/life this way whatever happens you CANNOT fail, because you will ALWAYS be successful in the sense that you are learning, that you are always growing and getting better.

DECISIONS – life is really all about the DECISIONS you make, and how you approach your decisions. Ie do you study for your final exam or go out and party? Do you buy a condo in a suburb which is less expensive or one downtown?, its YOUR choice. Everybody decides what they do and therefore where their lifes go...

Sooooooooooooo.
What is one of the most important elements to success?

HAVING A GOOD DECISION MAKING PROCESS. And putting yourself in a position where you can make the BEST decision at any given time.

How?

What to focus on:

NOT ideas (EMOTIONS)
but FACTS (logic)
and what YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER

ie. Do you focus on what somebody says and how good they makes it sound (ideas?) or the facts that is what is ACTUALLY the case, what has actually happened,
Something that will really help the decision making process is taking ALL the info available+ all the things we have control over and making the BEST decision you can based on that criteria. Then having faith in YOURSELF and the decision YOU made, not necessarily somebody’s elses.
Control:

A recipe for making poor decisions is putting your decisions or anything else in the hands of somebody else.

Why?

ITS NOT that they aren’t great people and they wont get things done. Sometimes you have no choice but if you break it down think of what you are doing by putting yourself in this position,
You become DEPENDANT on them like a kid + has parents. And then to move forward or make a decision you REQUIRE THAT PERSON. Just like a kid asks his parents if he can have the car for the weekend before he can decide what to do with their friends, you have to ask whoever you are dependant on to see if your plans will get the green light and its okay…
Basically: YOU LOSE CONTROL, you are usually no longer in a position where YOU can make the decision.

SOLUTION:
Control is everything. Because whoever has control has the DECISION MAKING POWER. As we learned from above decisions are a key component to success.

Anything you do with other people should be a SUPPLEMENT with which you have NO EXPECTATIONS, because you can’t control them, so why would you expect anything?!?
Minimize exposure to losing control = Have YOUR OWN plan and stick to it, let other things fall into that place not the opposite way. Ie. Don’t follow somebody elses plan and make your plan try and fit into that.


hope this make some sense, that is all for this week!

MEL